She talked about the desires she still has for her own life and how that stands opposed to our way of being together in some ways. I felt very recognised in this because I have been struggling so much with the sense that she is not giving me everything and that I am expecting to much from her in this phase of life. It was a really long conversation with a lot of love and appreciation for each other that arrived at the conclusion that things will have to change between us if we want to be together in the future. It is scare but it is also a weight from my shoulders. I had been dealing with many doubts again and falling in the pithole of breakup scenarios etc etc. It was very relieving then to hear that it really does not have to be a binary one thing or the other (together or seperate). We agreed that at a point in the coming future we will take some real distance from each other. Reverting more back to a kind of ‘dating each other’ situation. At least for a time. We are not in a hurry however. We have a really nice appartment and enjoy spending time together so that is what we will do for now. I am so suprised that this conversation happened. It is was really so incredibly honest and generous with each other. Really a testament to our care for each other and relationship. I think it is really not a bad idea. The things she feels are things I will also feel for sure and I look forward to a life with different kind of excitements and freedom. The knowledge that we will still be there for each other in the present and future also really eases this. No regrets or doubts, just potential.